Graveyard

I'm watching kintaro n dlm one of the episode tu birthday anak dia which also his wife death anniversary but he forgot until his son teacher kasik hadiah utk anak dia. So bile org lain tau yg itu birthday anak dia, they plan fo a party but Kintaro x mau sebab dia nak visit garveyard isteri dia. I wondering .. when we die .. org kebumikan .. then kat dlm tanah tu kita reput .. and after sometimes, there is nothing in the kubur to actually identify ourself. We are no more physically. But every time ppl want to remember death ppl .. they will come to the graveyard. Dlm cete melayu pun banyak .. bile ada buat salah dgn org yg dah mati .. they will ask for forgiveness kat kubur .. Of course we dont know exactly where dead ppl go or should i say "roh" but i dont think it nessecary to go to graveyard to remember our dear one .. but maybe dah jadi tradition. We teach our kids to visit graveyard at least during raya .. reading yassin at the graveyard .. but it rare that we teach them to say prayers to the "arwah" everyday.. padahal saying a prayer for them everyday is less an effort to go graveyard.